In my profession, at the simplest level, I help others make positive changes. Working with kids is so much easier than adults because they are not yet accustomed to a gazillion bad habits and are willing to put change into action. Autistic kids are, by far, the most motivated to change, yet the most challenged physiologically because something as simple as making eye contact can send them into a panic. Yet, fairly easily these amazing kiddos are willing to burn through their anxieties.
Fully functioning adults, on the other hand, can be exhausting. They are well aware of the changes they need to make, yet more often than not they find a reason to stall. So how do we get the motivation to begin? We are creatures of habit, by nature hating change with an insatiable ability to think up excuses. Whether it be helping an autistic child control impulses or an adult control binges, and a million other things in between, there is one thing I know for sure and that is that we ”think” so much we talk our selves out of changing. When it comes to breaking habits, beginning new tasks… I don’t think we should think at all.
The human brain produces some 70,000 thoughts a day. But the brain at it’s most basic level is simply a survival organ and still under great evolve. We are programmed for survival of the species. Our ancestors who survived the cave man days, the ice age, etc, were the ones prepared, having thought enough negative thoughts to be ready for disaster and survive the famine.
Great! But it is 2019 and we still for the most part operate on this same primitive negative brain. Scientist believe more than 95% of our thoughts are the exact same thoughts we had yesterday!! And a whopping 90% plus of those habitual thoughts are horribly negative. For someone suffering depression, the negative thoughts rule their world. But the reality is that most of those thoughts never, ever come true.
So why then would we give our thoughts so much power over us, halting our every desire to change? It is a sign of intelligence to have so many thoughts, but the down fall is that we can over-think until we talk ourselves out of achieving what we want.
This is exactly why I love the movie “Forrest Gump”. Bless his heart ♥, he did not even possess enough brain power to talk himself out of a damn thing. I mean, come on, he said it himself – “I am not a smart man, Jenny”. Yet look at all he accomplished (yes, I realize it is fictional, but go with me here). Join the army and earn a medal of honor- check, play professional ping pong in China -check, be a shrimp boat captain, run across the country for 3 years, marry Jenny- check, check, check!
Unlike precious Forrest, it seems we are too smart for our own good. We desire a goal, our spirit beams, our gut says do it, our heart pleads with each pump, yet we let our soul get snuffed by our habitually negative nugget.
Stop and think about it, and then, I suggest don’t. Don’t think. Listen to your gut for once while honoring the longing in your heart. There are neurons there too, just begging to be heard. And now science knows your heart is actually sending more information to the brain than the negative nugget is to the heart. If you wanna be smart, start listening and following your heart.
What is it that you want? Feel the answer, really, really feel it. Be more like Forrest approaching life without an awareness of limitations, simply taking action while figuring it out along the way. Tell your negative thoughts to kiss your butt and then go forth and Gump it up! ~ Juls ♥
Juls lives in Costa Rica where she finds her inspiration in nature. She is the author of her award winning memoir, The Year of The Frog, a fairy tale come true about her own journey seeking healing and love. Her newest book to be published soon, PachaMama Prattle is her most creative endeavor combining her love of nature, meditation, poetry and art. Find her author works on Amazon under her pen name “Juls Amor”, a name she chose to honor her soul and her Mother’s maiden name “Love”.
Juls writes blogs dedicated to promoting healthy love and peace. Find her on Facebook under Juls Amor or better still, Gump it up and join her in Costa Rica for an all natural wellness week at Bare Feet Retreats .